“When love is unreliable and you are a child, you assume that it is the nature of love – its quality – to be unreliable. Children do not find fault in their parents until later. In the beginning, the love you get is the love that sets” (Winterson 76).
“Parent-child attachment has implications for developing healthy relationships later in life.
LGBT youth may experience a disruption in parent-child attachment if they are rejected based on their sexual orientation or gender identity.
Parental rejection of LGBT youth negatively affects youths’ identity and health.
Parental acceptance of LGBT youth is crucial to ensure that youth develop a healthy sense of self.”LGBT Youth and Family Acceptance
“Immediately upon our births we begin to be socialized by the people we love and trust the most, our families or the adults who are raising us. They shape our self-concepts and self perceptions, the norms and rules we must follow, the roles we are taught to play, our expectations for the future, and our dreams” (Harro 17).
“I was a woman. I was a working-class woman. I was a woman who wanted to love women without guilt or ridicule. Those three things formed the basis of my politics, not the unions, or the class war as understood by the male Left” (Winterson 133).
“Liberation is the practice of love. It is developing a sense of self that we can love, and learning to love others with their differences from us,” (Harro 8).
“We have to be willing to admit that we’re not capable of figuring things out alone” (Wheatley 2).
At the heart of one’s socialization lies insecurity and fear. The way a person is socialized can impact the level of their insecurity and self perception. If a person is raised in an environment that makes them feel like a nuisance or they are constantly pushed to be something that they are not, then that insecurity can play a bigger role in that person’s life, therefore causing them to be a less happy person. According to the US National Library of Medicine National Institutes of Health, if a parent rejects their child’s identity when they come out, it “negatively affects youths’ identity and health.” This therefore disturbs a child’s ability to construct the basic skills used to create lasting relationships in their childhood, and as they age to adulthood. This permanent impact of parent neglect can have chilling effects on the beliefs the child has on their identity and the hope they believe they could have for the future. Again, Bobbie Harro’s Cycle of Socialization is an endless cycle that can be transformed at different stages of a person’s life. If a child is neglected so much that they lack the ability to love someone, it takes a very caring person to hold their hand and teach them the love that they were lacking all throughout their childhood. Although one may experience great loss and abuse, with love from others, they can always heal their wounds and learn how to love themselves again.